This post comes with 2 warnings: firstly this is a very personal post and I may get a bit emotional and sentimental; secondly, the following photos in this post were not taken by me, but by the inimitable Vicky Slater of Vicky Slater Photography. I hired her over a month ago to take my family photographs.
I imagine that other photographers understand when I say I do not like being photographed. In fact, you could say, I like hiding behind the camera. That’s why I chose to be the photographer, and not the model. It’s a fairly big deal for me to step out in front of the camera for a full session! So, when and why did this sudden, uncontrollable urge develop to be brave and bare my face to the camera? Well… here comes the sad part, earlier this year, I lost my Dad. He had been diagnosed with a terminal illness 18 months previously. In that time we spent as much time as we could in his company. I took many photos, of him and my Mum, of him and the children. I haven’t found one of me and him together in that time frame. I think that’s rather sad don’t you? Yes, I have all the memories still in my heart and mind, but it would’ve been nice to have just 1 photo of us together.
As photographers, whether an amateur or professional, we often forget to include ourselves when documenting our own family lives. I think it’s important when looking through those old family albums in years to come, that there are actually some photos of each member of the family in there. Yes, I can get my husband to take snap shots of me. I could even set up the self timer. But, I wanted for once, to relax and have someone else do the thinking; what’s in the scene, are there trees growing out of people’s heads, what settings should it be for aperture, speed, iso? Has the light changed? (And believe me, the light change a lot during our family session with Vicky!) I wanted some photos to prove that I was actually there in my family’s lives, those numerous weekend jaunts we have in the country when I would have to forcibly persuade “the boys” (my husband and son) that going out and about is fun (and yes they do enjoy themselves once they’re out of the house), and that no, Mummy doesn’t have a camera permanently plastered to her face. I wanted it to be a treat. A luxury. So what better chance did I have when Vicky announced that she was setting up shop. I had long followed her on Flickr and admired her work. She has published and exhibited her beautiful works of art, but now she is also taking on commercial family portraits. Hooray! I cannot tell you how excited I was at this prospect. If I’m going to hire someone to take my photos, I better like their style, and I adored hers. Result. I cannot tell you what a wonderful experience it was for me. Vicky had great rapport with the children, she even made my initially reluctant husband say he actually enjoyed the experience!
Then, the photographs themselves. Vicky has a very strong vision, I knew that from her photos. I came across her flickr stream through my search for film photographers and she now shoots both film and digital. Whatever medium she shoots in, it is clear to me that her vision comes through. So I knew that she would be able to capture aspects and facets of my children’s personalities in a way that I probably wouldn’t be able to. She would see them differently. They would probably act differently towards her. I told Vicky before we met that I thought her photographs had “soul”. I think these two photographs demonstrate that and show how these two siblings are so similar but display such different characteristics.

I have ordered many prints and have a large framed print coming shortly. I can’t tell you how delightful it is to have actual prints and framed photographs I can treasure and look at for years to come. I wish I could share more of her photos of us, but I’m not going to bother her at this time for more digital files as she is rather busy at present. She is getting ready for her exhibition as part of the Salisbury Art Trail. It opens this Wednesday. I urge those of you who are local to go and catch it if you can. She is amazing.
oh yes… here I am, look, with my family.
Photos taken at Sir Harold Hillier Gardens, Romsey.
Photographer: Vicky Slater